SELF-IMPROVE-BLOG

There were many reasons as to why I was a shy person. My family by nature for whatever reason are seemingly always worrying about something or other. The majority of us basically have the wrong attitude to life; I am not really sure why this is but the result has been detrimental to our quality of life.

I also grew up having to cope with a stammering problem which as you can imagine did not help my own confidence levels and only added to what was already the difficult task of mixing with other people. I did eventually manage to achieve fluency and to stop stuttering but only after suffering with the speech impediment for eighteen years.

I now help people to overcome stammering, I also sell composite doors as well as offering a manual article submission service.

I have to say that I always preferred to be by myself and was what many people saw as a loner. When I am on my own nobody can hurt me and I was also in no danger of stuttering. The weird aspect was that inside I was a very confident person who was desperate to show the world, the real Steve Hill.

Being shy made it difficult for me to form relationships with women and made my work life also more of a choir.

At the age of around twenty-one I decided to attempt to overcome my shyness once and for all. I had to understand the real reasons behind why I was shy and to deal with each one in turn. I went through a period of asking myself a number of questions; for example:

Why are you scared of people? This was because I had a fear of not being accepted or liked. They may hurt me by being aggressive towards me or by taunting me about my speech etc. This was me being paranoid, so I decided that if I don’t try, I won’t know.

Why are you afraid of socialising? This was because I did not feel that I had a lot to say and believed people would think I was boring. At the end of the day I realised that all I can do in life is to try and best and this is exactly what I did.

Why won’t you approach a member of the opposite sex? This was because I thought that they would only tell me to go away and that they would not be interested in me. Yet again, if I do not try, how will I know.

I have now come to realise that out of ten people I meet, three of four of them might not like me, but that means there are six who will. Life is to short to be constantly paranoid and stressed. I have to battle against my shyness and break free of it once and for all.

I am pleased to report that my overall level of self-esteem and self-confidence is currently higher than they have ever been. I still have periods where I become shy but these are becoming less and less as time goes by.