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When my friend sensed that in a few weeks the light of life was about to be extinguished, and that there was no more hope for him, he called me to his side and said, “If only I had lived my life differently, I might not have felt such an emptiness now. Promise me,” he caught my hand, “Promise me that you won’t make the same mistake." And when I asked him what mistakes, he asked me to get a pen and paper and to jot down his last words. Here they are in condensed form:

1) Talk less; listen more.

2) Listen to your grandfather’s stories about his youth. When he’s gone, you will relive the bond through these memories.

3) Invite friend over for a snack or dinner even if the house is a mess.

4) Eat popcorn in the living room even though its messy.

5) Invite the friends who have children home. Don’t worry about their children creating a mess.

6) Sit on the grass even though it dirties your pants.

7) Never buy something just because it lasts for a long time or because it is practical.

Stay in bed and at home when sick and stop pretending that the world cannot go one without me for a day.

9) Light up the wonderfully crafted candles and let them burn out. Better this than they accumulate dust in the closet.

10) Share life’s responsibilities with a partner, not only expenses.

11) (Meant for Women) Instead of waiting for the pregnancy to get over, cherish each moment in your heart. Understand that the life in you is the only chance you will get to help god create magic.

12) Let your children hug and kiss you whenever they wish to. Don’t stop them by saying things like: later, go wash your hands first, we have to eat dinner.

13) Say the following two phrases as often as possible: "I love you" and "I am sorry.”

14) Stop worrying about who loves or and who doesn't or about what others have or don't have.

15) Cherish all personal human relations.

16) Play with a pet every day. Laugh and run with it and take part in all its antics.

17) Spend more time with the people who love you.

18) Stop sweating because of all the small details and problems of life.

19) Grab every moment, look at it and live it. That moment will never return again.

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One day when I was around my early to mid twenties, I went to the hairdressers for my monthly trim. This woman enquired about whether I had heard about the tragic car crash that had recently occured. I hadn’t and she then went on to describe what had happened.

Three young men who were all aged twenty-two, were on the way for an evening in the local public house. One of the men was speeding and was unable to keep control of the car. His vehicle had then careered straight into a large tree, all three of the people in the car had died at the scene.

She continued that one of the men which had died, had worked in the butchers, which was only two doors away from her shop. She described the man in question, which turned out to be a person that I knew, just to say hello to. I actually saw him on most mornings and we often smiled at each other, and would say something like, hi there.

Later on when I was at home, I started to think even more about this particular person. Even though he was friendly, he always looked quite stressed and did not seem that happy. My guess is that he would have perhaps been more care-free and positive had he known that he did not have long to live.

It should not have taken this kind of tragedy to bring me to my senses, but it did. I suddenly realised that we are all terminally ill as we all will die at some point in the future. I am sorry if that is a bit morbid, but it is true. Not all of us will live until retirement age and our lives could end tomorrow.

I have always been a bit of a worrier; mainly about my speech I suppose as I had a stuttering speech impediment. I did eventually manage to gain fluency via an intensive one-to-one stuttering therapy course but even then I started to worry about business; I work for a composite door company and for a business cost reduction specialist on a part time basis.

I now have learnt to stop stressing so much – life, I have now learnt, is just too short.

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We are all very familiar with the word anger. This very basic and normal emotion is present in almost all organisms; man, animals, and micro organisms alike. Installed by nature and perfected by evolution, anger along with other emotions helps us to deal with dangerous or threatening situations whether real or not, in humans though anger gets somewhat complicated because of our rational nature.

Although there might be a few differences as to how man and woman display or express their anger, the basic fact still remains that once mismanaged, ignored or uncontrolled anger can cause physical or emotional damage. Remember that when we are angry we tend to become overly emotional, defensive, and highly exaggerated in our thoughts and actions, which in turn is fuelled by rage and agressiveness, making us hostile and unreasonable.

If you are one of the individuals who are having a hard time managing your anger and you find that most of the anger management techniques that you have tried do not seem to work, then there is another type of anger management therapy that you might want to consider; anger art therapy. Contrary to popular belief that art is only for recreation or hobby, art has also been used by psychological experts to help individuals in managing a lot of mental based problems, including, post partum depression, anxiety, stress, and even anger.

The advantage of anger art therapy as compared to other anger management methods is that, it can serve as a direct connection to what an individual may be feeling and allows him/her to express those feelings of rage and hostility in a constructive way. It does not matter what type of art form you choose or whether you are any good at it or not. Be it sketching, music, sculpting, or anything else in between, you will be able to benefit from art when it comes to anger management; provided you have expert guidance on hand that is.

For anger management art serves as your connection to the damaging feelings that you have pent up inside, giving you control over them and allowing those negative energies to be channelled into achieving constructive ends. One thing about anger art therapy is that you will probably need expert help when starting out as it somewhat involves strategies and methodologies that only they can provide.

In a sense you will be spending a bit if you are considering to get anger art therapy, but considering the possible benefits that you will be getting in return, it will be worth every penny that you dish out. Remember anger when unmanaged, mismanaged, or uncontrolled can worsen, creating problems, conflicts, misunderstandings and may alienate you from other people in the process. So its important that you take action, and the sooner the better. 

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These days everyone is engrossed with his or her work in an aim to earn livelihood and earning. The level of desire within the people has rose to such a limit that they have forgotten the main purpose of life, the same being happiness. In the vague of success and hunger for name and fame, people are forgetting to laugh, they are forgetting to cherish and they are even forgetting how to live life. The aspiration in them is slowly taking the form of aggression, which is not at all a good mark. This aggression is ruining youngsters and is making them more vulnerable to frustration and even depression in severe cases. The extent of frustration is rising within them day by day. The only cause for this is that they all expect a lot. Accordingly they work really very hard to achieve their goals and ambitions. If their aspiration is fulfilled, its well and good, else their disturbance ruins them. But it is actually suggested to all the youngsters and even the middle aged that they should keep in mind that victory doesn’t comes without failure. Also, even failure teaches you many things. Nothing goes in vain, not even a single effort. Life doesn’t ends after failure, there is always a next time. Trials and failures take you closer to success. This attitude if followed by everyone, earth would be a wonderful place to live in. Also, one should never be engrossed in loads of work that restrain you from locating time for yourself, say popular Sierra Madre Electricians . Myrtle Beach Roofers (Need one? click here!) say that as can be seen through our legendary professionals, getting involved in too much of work makes life pathetic. This is because you don’t find time for yourself. The day you start outlooking yourself, your life will turn miserable. To demonstrate, our famous and very talented Rocklin Plumbers , though are very successful and famous today but they are not living a quality life. To live a qualitative and beautiful life should be prioritized over all works.

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Do you struggle with keyword research? I know I do. I can find keywords all day long. Most of what I find are just not good enough.

When I used Google’s keyword tool I trusted the results 100%. Why wouldn’t I? Big company like that shouldn’t be giving false figures. As it happens, they aren’t always accurate.

The results you see are not always correct, far from it. But it probably was at the time they put it together. I discovered the answer almost by pure chance.

I decided to go for a keyword with about five thousand competing pages. I felt I could do well with that one. I started churning out articles by the bucket load.

Pretty soon I noticed over 9000 competitors. I was downhearted at this new revelation. Maybe it was going to be far more difficult than I imagined. It turned out that my articles were showing on these sites and ranking for the keyword.

The point I’m trying to get across is that had I looked at the keyword with 9000 competitors, I would have left it alone. As a lot of them were mine (or had my article on) I was competing against my self most of the time. A good result all round in my opinion.

Not wanting to rely on luck every time I thought I’d try a keyword research service. I was looking to get some decent keywords delivered on a daily basis. I did a few calculations and came to the conclusion that research services, though not cheap, were value for my dollar.

There were a few to choose from but I went with Travis Sago and his Instacash service. After all, he’s the king of the bum marketers. Bum marketing only costs my time so it’s my kind of marketing.

If I can get a keyword or two in my in box each day then that saves me valuable time. At least a two hour saving. An hour or two of my time is highly valuable to me when all I have is time. If I weigh the cost each day against my two hours work it clearly becomes value for money.

Outsourcing, outsourcing, outsourcing. Seems to be all you hear from the gurus of internet marketing. And what I’m trying here is simply that. I’m simply outsourcing the job to a keyword research service.

If you’re interested in how the trial of the Instacash service went then head on over to my web site. I also mention earlier about thousands of articles published for one keyword. I’ll let you into that little secret on my site.

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I used to be quite a fragile character, some would say that I was even scared of my own shadow. I was always paranoid that people were talking about me and laughing behind my back.

So why was I like this? Well it was mainly because, in my opinion, I had a stutter. It started when I was aged four and despite attending various forms of stop stammering therapy I was unable to find the solution which would enable me to achieve fluency.

By the age of twenty-two I had basically had enough of living life in this manner and knew that the time had arrived when I needed to become far more self-assured. I could not continue to live my life as I had been, as I would probably be dead by the time I was fifty.

I then went about a self-help program to increase my overall self-confidence and self-esteem. I was extremely keen to discover the secrets to happiness; to achieve fluency and of ways to deal with my depression.

What I found out over the next twelve to eighteen months would change my life forever.

These are the things I had to do:

I had to stop feeling sorry for myself. Yes I am not perfect but who is.

I had to think in a more positive way. This was something I had somehow learnt to do in my business life where I work for a company that offers a medical negligence claims service but I had never managed to do it in my personal life.
 
I had to stop worrying about the future.

I had to stop caring what other people thought of me.

I needed to smile more.

I needed to learn to relax. Over the last few months I have been using meditation to help me with this.

I had to learn to like myself.

I needed to become stronger to fight away the negative thoughts in my head.

I needed to appreciate what I did have in life, rather than concentrating on what I had not.

I started to implement the above and it helped me no end. That horrible cloud of doom, still descended however, around once a month. When it does descend, I now write two lists. What I am happy about in life and what I am sad or worrying about. I then analyse both lists and more times than not, I am actually over-reacting.

I am now a much more positive person and this is having a good affect on my business life where I now work for a ”Asda voucher codes” company and I also offer a DVD duplication service.

I wish you every success with your efforts to gain in self-confidence.

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As we live through life we are often confronted with situations that requires some free words of encouragement.As much as there are happy times in life there are also some sad times that we can not just pretend don’t exist. If you are not sure when it is best to share some biblical encouragement then take a few minutes to go through this brief but insightful article.

Someone dealing with the death of a loved one

A person who has just lost a loved one needs to be encouraged and supported. They need to hear good things and positive talk. Just becareful not to go overboad. Find the right things to do and words to say.

Grieving people go through various phases of grief and you need to be sensitive to understand the grieving process and what words to say at each stage.

Someone starting a new job

Starting a new job may be all well and good yes but it does have its fair share of frustration and intimidation. So if you know someone who is just starting a new job then you have a candidate to help out. For someone who has a good sense of humor, you can just send through some poems that give encouragement about being in a new job.

Someone in a new country

Being in a different country can be so stressful especially if you can not understand the local language. One of the predominant feelings are anxiety and being home sick. I know someone who fell into a major depression after going overseas to pursue her studies. It took two months to get that person out of the “slump” .

There are many more people who need to be encouraged from time to time. These include those who are sick and those in prisons. As you live through each day, always remember that someone needs you to speak some few inspiring words.

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